A Toxic relationship is like standing on broken glass, if you stay you will keep hurting. If you walk away, you will hurt but eventually, you will heal.” – Autumn Kohler.
The worst thing about having a toxic relationship or facing gaslighting is that it seem impossible to leave or move on. Because toxic relationships are highly influential, painful, disturbing, addictive and destructive.
Many of us are struggling and destroying ourselves in toxic relationships. Here We are sharing a practical and effective way, so you can easily and completely move on from a toxic relationship and can start a happy life and wonderful future.
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Why To Move on or Leave Toxic Relationship
Lack of knowledge and realization is the biggest reason behind your sadness and anguish. When you realize how something is harming or destroying you, then you can easily get rid of it.
Having a toxic relationship does not only affect things between you and your partner rather it affects your personal and professional life too. it affects every part of your lives and every step of your actions.
Harms your confidence and prevents personal growth:
In a toxic relationship, your partners always blame and taunt you for no reason. “Why did you, why didn’t you, it all happened because of you, you should not, etc.” you keep hearing these and similar sentences by your partner. It makes you feel low and down. You start feeling low in confidence. You find yourself in confusion. You start doubting your abilities and actions. It affects your personal life. You start questions and doubting yourself, you start giving unwanted attention and importance to people’s opinion, Even in your own personal time and lives.
You think like “whether I am doing right or wrong? Will it work? What if something goes wrong? And you know why this happens ? Well simply, It happens because your partner forces you to doubt yourself. he/she made you think that whatever you do is wrong, and everything bad happens because of you and your actions.
Makes You Mentally and Physically unhealthy:
When someone always questions your actions, and blames you. You start overthinking. You walk towards social and emotional isolation. It can also cause mental illness, depression, anxiety and physical illness. Sometimes you may also experience suicidal thoughts and actions.
Toxic relationships harm you in a subtle way, you can’t even see and realize it unless you are completely destroyed.
Turns into abusive relationship :
Toxic relationships turn into psychologically, emotionally, physically, or even sexually abuse. You should be aware that abusive relationships can lead to long term emotional and physical illness. Especially emotional abuse , like physical abuse, can have long-term effects on the brain and body. According to a study , severe emotional abuse can be as damaging as physical abuse. and lead to serious emotional/mental illness.
How to move on or leave toxic relationship:
We all make mistakes, we all get stuck in problems. We find ourselves in bad and sad situations sometimes because of us and sometimes because of the people we love. But the best part is that there is always a way. We can always become better. We can fix ourselves. And control our lives.
You are not a Toy | Value Yourself-Know Self Worth :
A toxic partner makes you feel worthless. When you are with them you always try to care about them and try to prove yourself good. You put all your effort in making your partner happy and satisfied. You forget about yourself, your worth and value. The more time you will spend with them, the more self worth you will lose.
Ask yourself as many questions as you can ask. It will make you realise your worth. You will realize that you are not a toy or an electronic machine. You are also a human. You too have opinions, desires and value.
You are not a robot to follow someone’s useless command. You will realise that you too have a self identity and self value. Once you realise your value, it will be easier to move on and work on yourself. You need to know and accept one thing that you are sacrificing your worth and value for a toxic person. You are compromising with your self respect. You’re ignoring and insulting self worth. And expecting others to respect, value and worth you.
Keep in mind if you’ll not value yourself first then no one else will value you. If you’ll not care about your opinion and happiness then no one else will. If you truly want others to respect and value you. Start respecting and giving value to yourself first.
Make own choices | Take Control of Your Life :
When you are in a toxic relationship. You allow your partner to choose your choices. A toxic partner always wants you to do the things they like. They want you to live your life as they command. But once you realize your self worth, you are ready to take control of your life. Realising your value will give you strength and motive to live your life with your own choice.
You will know that your life is “your life and you are the captain of your life”. No one else has the right to decide your choices and living style.
Take practical steps. Start doing the things you like to do. Talk with whom you want. Read, watch, eat and wear whatever you like. After all, it’s your life, you control it and you deserve a stress-less happy life.
Know You Deserve Love, Care and Happiness:
If you are compromising with a toxic relationship. And keep trying to fix dysfunctional relation. It means you are insecure about yourself. It indicates “you don’t believe that you deserve a good relationship and happy life. Many of us think that they can’t get a better person or a better relationship. Because of their looks, profession etc. if you are one who feels the same then you need to stop thinking the same. No matter what age, profession, how you look or what your lifestyle is, you always deserve a happy life and healthy relationship. Keep in mind not having a relationship is way better than having a toxic relationship.
Be with the people who make you feel happy, lite and warm. Interact with the people who tells you about life and value. Who motivates you to love and value yourself. It will boost your confidence. The more you interact(online or offline) and hangout with positive and helping people the more positive and happy you’ll feel. Keep in mind positivity attracts positivity and opens opportunity.
Don’t fall into Apology Trap :
One thing always stops us from leaving a toxic relationship. That is our emotional attachment. When we are emotionally attached with someone, we can’t keep our motive of leaving. One day you’ll decide to break the relationship but next day you’ll find yourself giving a second chance. Toxic people uses apology as their weapon. They trap you with an apology.
They manipulates you emotionally, they apologizes in an innocent manner so you’ll give excuses to yourself like “may be he/she was tired, that;s why he/she did so, he/she may be not in good mood that’s why he/she said so etc” and then you’ll give them a second chance to destroy yourself.
Don’t confuse facts with feelings. Never fall into the apology trap. Their apology is just a trap. It is time to take control of your life and not allow them to hurt you again. A lot of people are stuck in a toxic relationship. They try to get rid of pain to move on from a toxic relationship but they couldn’t. because again and again they fall into an apology trap.
Feel Proud and happy not guilt:
Another thing that stops us from leaving a toxic relationship is that we feel guilt. We feel like we are not doing good. And it may hurt them. But here we forget about all the suffering and pain they gave us. You don’t need to feel guilt. You don’t need to care about the feelings of people who never cared about your feelings. You should never feel guilty for removing toxic people from your life. You are not giving up, you are letting toxicness go from your life.Keep in mind if you are doing something for your own good and growth then you should never feel guilt.
Recall all the suffering and pain they gave you. Recall all the sleepless nights you spent crying. It will make you realize that you are not one who should feel guilty. removing yourself from a toxic relationship that hurted you, destroyed you emotionally and actively made you feel unhappy and worthless is something to feel proud of, not guilty about.
Take Away :
Knowing self worth, loving and caring yourself is the key to a happy life. If you want a happy life, then you should own your life. And live it by your own choices. If you are in a relationship and your partner is hurting you again and again. Then you should ask yourself “who is allowing him/her to hurt you”?
The Subtle fact about toxic relationships is that, “they are not hurting you, rather you are allowing them to hurt you. So keep in mind if you’ll not allow anyone to hurt you then they can’t. You own your life. Make it better. It will take a little time and effort to leave a toxic relationship. But if you really want happiness and a better life. Then you can achieve it.
If you have any doubt or question. Or is there anything else emotionally and psychologically thought, situation or thing is stopping you from leaving a toxic relationship. Then you can write to us. We’ll try to help you out.
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